Vivian Wilder

HARTFORD, CONN. – Vivian Shirley Marshall Wilder, 92, died Thursday, Aug. 3, 2017 at St. Francis Hospital in Hartford, Conn.

Guy and Marion (Werner) Marshall welcomed their daughter Vivian along with her fraternal twin, Ruth, on June 9, 1925. The young family lived in Forest Hills, N.Y.; Westfield, N.J. and Norwood, Mass.

Vivian graduated as salutatorian of Norwood High School and went on to graduate from Katherine Gibbs School in New York.

She married the love of her life, Frank Wallace Wilder, in 1952 and eventually settled in Simsbury, Conn. She was an active member of the First Church of Christ in Simsbury and worked tirelessly on the Simsbury Council on the Aging, as a 4-H instructor and as executive secretary to the president of the former Ensign Bickford Co. Her passions included her family, cooking, playing bridge and entertaining.

In 1958, she and her family began summer vacationing at Porter’s Point in Colchester, which became her second home. Her signature look was a neat bun, spit curls and red lipstick along with a twinkle in her eyes. She welcomed all with warmth and an offer to feed you.

She is predeceased by her husband, Frank, and her twin sister, Ruth Milkey, of Granby, Conn. Survivors are her daughter Lynn (Wilder) Coutermarsh and her husband, Thomas, of Colchester; her daughter Lee Wilder of Simsbury, Conn., her grandson, Shane Coutermarsh, and her granddaughter, Shannon Flynn.

In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to the children’s charity of your choice. A private service is planned.